How do you know if you, a teammate, or another friend is having a problem with their ability to enjoy each and every day?

B : Behaviour.

Is someone you know behaving in an obviously new and unexpected way? Is it unpredictable?

U : Uncomfortable.

Does someone’s behavior or attitude make you feel "unsafe" or uncomfortable?

D : Depressed.

Does someone you know seem depressed, unhappy, withdrawn or irritable more often than not?

D : Different.

Is someone consistently just a little different than what you are used to?

Y : You.

You are not alone. Trust what you are feeling. Other people may feel just like you. Remember you should be your own buddy too.


Have the courage to speak up and get help for a friend/teammate–or for yourself. It’s the hardest thing to do, but it’s also the single most important step you can take. Speak to a teammate, friend, adult, coach, manager, your doctor, a helpline…

Remember: there are people who are ready to listen, and to help. And if you know someone who may need help, remember that you could be in their shoes. Don’t bully or stigmatize them – have a heart. The more you understand, the easier it is to have empathy. Learn about your friend, teammate, or family member’s challenges. Go online. There are a lot of resources to help you.

Click here for resources where you can get help »


As a coach, you can help your kids by giving them a shared activity, helping your players understand the importance of being aware of mental health and reminding them how important it is to find someone to reach out to for help. Check out our ‘Coach’s Notes’ section for tools you can use with your team.

As a player, you can commit to being a Buddy to your team mates (and yourself) by learning about mental health and having the courage to seek help for you or your teammates. We’ve got cards and posters you can print out and put in classrooms, dressing rooms or even in your wallet to remind you to do a Buddy Check with friends, teammates, family and yourself.

As a parent, player or general supporter, you can ask your kids’ coaches to consider joining with other youth hockey teams as part of Buddy Check for Jesse.

As a sponsor, you can help us reach young players and their coaches across Canada by providing green tape, money for posters or even just by putting our posters up and distributing our cards. If you’d like to become a sponsor, please contact us!


Post your photos and videos of mental health support on social media using the hashtag #BuddyCheckForJesse


Buddy Check For Jesse appreciates that some teams/associations, corporations, and individuals would like to provide financial support. This component of the Buddy Check initiative will be expanding after our October 2018 launch.

Buddy Check For Jesse has specific plans for future fundraising and targeting donations towards the mental health needs of our youth and young adults. At this time we do not have CRA tax deduction eligibility.

All donations can be sent via email to
Your contribution is greatly appreciated.